Susan Santangelo

by Anne Holmes on September 26, 2019

I’m delighted to introduce author Susan Santangelo and share with you this Voices of Baby Boomer Women blog post – in which she answers our celebrated questions.  You see, Susan and I go way back. I first ran into her when I bought the NABBW.

According to Susan, she’d already written the first two Carol and Jim Andrews Baby Boomer Mysteries – the two that have now been updated and reissued as the boxed set Milestones Can Be Murder –  by that time. I’m sure she’s correct. The thing I most remember about the first time we spoke, is that we had instant rapport. It seemed like we’d been friends for ages. After all, we had a lot in common:

First, we were both Baby Boomer women who successfully worked from home – as did our husbands.

  • Most people who hear that both my husband and I work from home wonder how that can be possible. They insinuate that if they had to spend life “24/7/365” living and working with their spouse, a murder would likely ensue.
  • I’m guessing Susan heard the same story, because in her first book, “Retirement Can Be Murder,” protagonist Carol Andrews learns that her husband Jim – who works for a marketing company in NYC –  is thinking of taking early retirement and coming home…to spend all of his time together with her in their lovely Fairport, Connecticut home.
  • As you might expect, Susan writes of how much Carol dreads Jim’s upcoming retirement. She likens it to being “worse than a root canal without Novocain.” She can’t imagine anything worse than having an at-home husband with time on his hands and nothing to fill it — except interfering in the day-to-day activities of their household and driving her crazy.
  • Like me, she had worked as a magazine writer during her her earlier years, though her articles were published in Helen Gurley Brown’s Cosmopolitan magazine, and I’d chickened out on the NYC lifestyle. My work was published in newspapers and magazines catering to a less cosmopolitan female audience.

Second, apparently neither of us spend much of our at home work time interacting with our spouses.  

  • I loved – and could totally identify with – the story she told me about how she started writing her first Carol and Jim Andrews Baby Boomer Mysteries book:  It seems she and husband Joe – also an author – were going to write a series of three books together. From what she’s told me, I imagine the plan was for sort of a “he said/she said” story, because the plan was for each to each contribute chapters.
  • But, says Susan, she actually wrote her chapters – while Joe never got around to his…
  • So eventually Susan just wrote the first Carol and Jim Edwards book herself. And finding an eager audience, she kept going. Currently she’s working on book nine in the series.

Third, we both have a strong interest in assisting women with Baby Boomer related issues. And why not? We’re both Baby Boomers, and demographically, there are a lot of us. Plus, it’s always been suggested that authors choose their subject based on writing what they personally know about. As Susan and I know:

  • There were an estimated 74.1 million Baby Boomers living in the United States, according to the 2016 census figures. (76 million of us were born here in the US, but apparently between deaths and expatriations, we’re now down a couple million.)
  • Every day more of us “senior” Boomers, are hitting the traditional retirement age of 65. (In fact, the oldest Boomers are now 70+ while the youngest are 55.)
  • More importantly, much of what is written about Baby Boomers deals with the financial piece of growing older – taking care of your IRAs and 401Ks, and/or working beyond retirement age, etc. Of course, this is important, because so many Boomers are not financially prepared to retire.
  • But as Susan clearly realizes, very little is written that addresses our emotional issues. Like: how do couples who have been married for years, raised a family, and been leading fairly independent lives, now cope with the fact that the husband and the wife are no longer working daily from 9 – 5 job? Instead, they’re often home, frustrated and getting into each other’s way as they struggle to re-define their roles.
  • And most importantly, Susan understands that it’s often a lot easier to make a point that actually sticks with people if you can tell a story. Especially a story with a bit of humor thrown in… And that’s why she’s been so successful with books on topics like In-Laws, Class Reunions, Marriage, Moving, Second Honeymoons, Funerals and even that sancrosanct topic, Dieting. 

Now that I’ve shared with you why Susan has often been generous enough to autograph my copies of her books with a phrase like, “For Anne, a partner in crime,” I’ll leave you with the proud disclaimer that I have also, on a couple of occasions, enjoyed the opportunity to write a blurb which has appeared on the back and/or inside covers of Susan’s books.  So I am clearly a dedicated fan of Susan’s writing.

Take it away, Susan…

 

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

I’m proud to be an early member of the Boomer generation. I’ve had a long feature-writing career with magazines and newspapers in the NYC area, including a stint at Cosmopolitan back in the Helen Gurley Brown days. Now I’m writing the Baby Boomer mystery series, humorous cozies about Carol and Jim Andrews, a typical Boomer couple navigating life’s rocky road toward their twilight years, with a dead body thrown in just to add to the mix.

I split my time between Cape Cod, Massachusetts and the Gulf Coast of Florida, and share my life with my husband, Joe, and two very spoiled English cocker spaniels, Boomer and Lilly.

 Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

Joe and I have been married 52 years, and we were married on April Fool’s Day. (No kidding.) Two sons, Mark (married) and David, who’s still living the bachelor life in California. Plus a terrific daughter-in-law and two teenage grandchildren.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

My family eating dinner together! Everyone is on different schedules today, and there’s no opportunity for the families to sit down together, share a meal, and talk.

 What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

I like to think that I speak my mind when appropriate, but know when to be quiet and just listen. I think it’s important for women at any age to know how to do both. And when. I’m lucky that I’m able to give opinions through the chief character in my book, Carol Andrews. She’s very opinionated!

What inspires you?

I’m a 21-year breast cancer survivor. The realization that life can be cut short without any warning inspired me to finally start writing mysteries.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

Writing! I’m having more fun than I ever thought possible. And I love it when I hear from readers that they love the books.

 Do you have any interesting hobbies?

Writing is more of a passion than a hobby. But I’d put retail therapy at the top of my list. Or, maybe that’s another passion? I love interacting with Boomer and Lilly. They give me such good advice.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

My favorite movie of all time is High Society with Grace Kelly, Bing Crosby, Celeste Holme and Frank Sinatra. I love the music, and the peek at Newport “high society.” And Grace Kelly is so beautiful in it.

 Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

I love to go to Italy, especially with family.

What inspires you?

I’m a 21-year breast cancer survivor. The realization that life can be cut short without any warning inspired me to finally start writing mysteries.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

Writing! I’m having more fun than I ever thought possible. And I love it when I hear from readers that they love the books.

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.

I try to eat right and watch my weight. And walk a mile every day.

What do you stress about?

The state of our country today!

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

I haven’t seen my natural hair color in years, and use a little makeup, especially around my eyes. Daily moisturizing with Oil of Olay, which one of my sons calls Oil of Old Lady. That’s about it.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

I’ve morphed into a published author. I’ve been very lucky.

Do you plan to retire?
No. Book one in the series is Retirement Can Be Murder. I don’t want to tempt fate!

Are you doing anything to GO Green?

Recycle, reuse whenever possible. Cut down on the use of plastics.

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

My cancer diagnosis.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

Well, I’d like to win a Pulitzer Prize for my books but that’s probably not going to happen. But my dog Lilly’s AKC name is My Pulitzer Prize, and she’s enough for me.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community.

I use my books, which contain quite a bit of humor, to discuss problems that Boomers face today. Like retirement, downsizing and selling the family home, destination wedding of an adult child, high school reunions etc. And at the end of each book I provide helpful websites for further information. I often do book talks for nonprofit organizations and donate a portion of book sale to support the organization that’s hosted me.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

I have far too many to choose only one.

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

Live every day to the fullest, and don’t sweat the small stuff!

 

 

 

A huge NABBW welcome to Jennifer Hipkiss, one of our newest members. Jennifer is the founder of Vidyavest, an independent, fiduciary advisory firm dedicated to coaching clients toward their unique life purpose. Jennifer tells us she founded Vidyavest in order to add an oft missed value to the financial services industry.

Why take the risk of starting her own firm? Part of her answer is found in her firm’s unique name: Vidyavest. In Sanskrit, VIDYA means “science, learning, philosophy, and education. The pursuit of knowledge, wisdom and continued growth.” With VEST coming from the word “invest.”

Jennifer explains that her firm’s goal, is to assist her clients to align their finances with their personal life values.  To do this, she asks her clients what she refers to as “the deep questions.” Their unique answers to these questions allow her to develop a plan for their money and future financial needs that meshes with their personal beliefs. She has a very personal reason for this focus:

“My first investment experience was when I was in my mid-20’s. I understood that it was important to save money for my future but I did not have the experience and knowledge as to how to invest and when investing was appropriate. I reached out to a well-known company I had heard about to get advice. I opened an account and the advisor invested my $500 deposit. This was a very well-known firm that I felt was trustworthy. The advisor invested my money and, at first, the investment grew. Within months, the investment began to drop and finally, after a few years, this $500 investment became worthless.”

Jennifer Hipkiss, founder of Vidyavest and one of NABBW's newest members.

“My initial experience, thankfully, was a relatively small amount of money in the big picture of my life. But, for me, at 26 years old, the loss was significant.

“I quickly began to read and learn all about investing. This experience led me to realize there is a significant difference between investing and financial planning. My first financial advisor never asked me important questions like, “Will you need this money within the next year,” or “What other money do you have available for your needs.”

“This experience, while certainly not ideal, was an excellent foundation for my passion. My passion has evolved to make sure my company looks at your “big picture.” Where are you today and where do you want to go?

“We use these questions like these to help educate and guide you as to how you can best allocate your financial resources towards YOUR goals,” she explains.

As a result, “We invest with you to build and preserve your personal wealth with specialized attention and guidance. We provide you with one-on-one attention to create comprehensive planning that helps manage your risk, implements valuable tax strategies, improves performance, and ensures your wealth is helping you fulfill your unique life goals.” This is especially important  because a financial plan’s true value only becomes evident with implementation.

“We understand the financial worries that keep you up at night. The economic landscape is ever-shifting, whether due to anticipated market downturns, proposed legislation, tax law changes or even natural disasters that stress the financial world without warning.

“Partnering with our team removes the mystery of how to plan today to mitigate the unknowns of tomorrow. Whether you’re concerned about having enough to retire comfortably, saving for your child’s college education, or caring for ailing parents, we assure you that we have felt similar worries and are here to guide you through. We understand the strategies needed to launch you over these hurdles. No matter the issues surrounding your personal financial situation, our team will craft custom plans tailored to unique needs and ambitions.”

Once we understood Jennifer’s focus, we asked her to answer our famous “Voice of Baby Boomer Women” questions, which she kindly did below.

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

Greetings – My name is Jennifer Hipkiss. I enjoy travel, people, diverse cultural experiences and the great outdoors. I like to be active with hiking/walking, biking, swimming and yoga. I enjoy volunteering with women and children. My work passion focuses on education, empowerment and serving tax and financial advice.

Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

I have been married to my husband, Victor, for 22 years and we have two sons, Hayden and Logan. We have been through many challenges and, thankfully, been able to partner and work through the terrain together. My father has lived with us over the years but currently he is living on his own.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

My favorite memories of childhood revolve around roller skates (I was like Tootie from the Facts of Life TV show, always had skates on my feet). If I was not roller-skating, I loved swimming or biking. I always dreamed of being an Olympic ice skater but that never came about. I do own ice skates and enjoy skating periodically in the winter.

What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

I want to share my experiences and knowledge with other women so we can lift each other up, help each other succeed and be powerful in our lives. I enjoy being around caring, genuine women where we each share and contribute ourselves for mutual betterment.

What inspires you?

I am inspired when I am around loving, energetic women who laugh, smile and support each other. It’s important for me to see beauty in looking at nature, each other and the wonder that’s in our hearts. We can all get bogged down with the negatives and fears that surround our lives, but when we look at nature and potential instead we can lift each other towards that good energy and love.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

I get most pleasure letting the true me evolve, live and be seen. I have hidden myself behind fear, people-pleasing and societal expectation for so long that there is such energy in being myself and that energy is giving me a pleasure that is catapulting me to better things and feeling deeper.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

I enjoy being active and getting outside as much as possible. Fresh air and movement makes me feel my best. I enjoy biking, walking/hiking, swimming and yoga. I love people and learning about differences in cultures. I enjoy travelling and hope to see more of the world as time continues.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

I really enjoy reading and my two most recent top picks are The Power of Meaning by Emily Esfahani Smith and  Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World by Adam Grant (with a foreword by Sheryl Sandberg).

The Power of Meaning is extremely moving and discusses how we can either choose to get stuck or be propelled by the challenges and devastating events that happen in our lives. Author Smith discusses how we can choose to use these events to find our meaning and purpose in life. It is a truly inspirational book.

Originals is also a fabulous book. This book talks about how our uniqueness can be used to change the world. If we choose to “fit in” with the crowd, we may be comfortable but we leave behind our best unique impact in the world.

The two books together really complement each other and help provide you with energy to apply your uniqueness to the world. I like these books because they’ve helped me in my midlife as I have changed from being a person wanting to hide in the crowd to allowing my uniqueness to show through and get applied to the world in everything I do.

Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

Awesome shot of Jennifer and her husband Victor, backed by one of the Black Forest's famous waterfalls, near Triberg, Germany.

I enjoy travelling and would like to do more. I enjoy nature and enjoy different scenery and cultures. I have traveled most with my husband and children but would like to explore trips with women only. I have a goal of doing a health retreat in 2020 with a group of women in Europe.

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate

Yes, I practice preventative medicine. I was pre-diabetic and had lots of health and fertility problems before age 30. I had a European doctor recommend I change my lifestyle and food choices. I did and lost 100 pounds and was able to naturally get pregnant. That sold me on a healthy lifestyle! I try to eat healthfully and be active but it is a daily balance!

What do you stress about?

Ironic that I am a financial advisor, but I have a fear of security and money. I think that is a main reason I became a financial advisor to be able to earn how to become secure. I was on my own very young and it was frightening on top of a few very scary events. I felt learning how to manage my money will help protect me from those things ever happening again. It has, to an extent, and as I age, I have become more secure, but I can get stressed about money even today and I can relate to clients that have insecurities with money.

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

I would love to keep my youthful appearance, but I have yet to have any surgery to do so. At this time, I haven’t gotten there yet, but we will see as time changes. I hope eating healthy and keeping active will help my youthful appearance. There are amazing role models at my gym.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

I would say that I have been evolving each year. Life challenges, changes and circumstances has caused me to change and evolve over time. I would say that last 5-7 years I have begun to come out of my internal shell. A natural introvert, I tended to shy away from people and be more behind the curtain. However, as I have aged ore recently, a new part of me is evolving to be able to better connect with other women and enjoy more social elements to life. I think my early life caused me to be more cautious and that is definitely lessened more recently and I have thoroughly enjoyed deepening connections with other women.

Do you plan to retire?

I enjoy my work and appreciate the flexibility and balance of owning my own company. I do not plan to retire soon. I hope to live healthfully, travel and continue to raise women up and empower their financial success until the day I die – whether in a paid capacity or volunteer.

Are you doing anything to GO Green?

I respect the beautiful nature that was created for us to enjoy. I am an outdoorsy person and love fresh air and sunshine. Our current social structure is burdening our nature and that makes me so sad. I want it preserved for our children and future generations. I certainly have room for improvement, but I do try to assimilate green choices in my daily life.

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

Absolutely, being on my own very young and having to learn about money and tax skills certainly has applied to my career and life purpose. I feel my experiences are better shared with others than kept within. As I have aged, I feel that my purpose is more clear and I am letting it shine brighter.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

I want to travel more, meet people all over the world, experience different cultures and live in different parts of the world.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?

I enjoy volunteering with children, women and seniors. I was very close to my grandparents so I naturally align to help seniors. I also feel that children need the best footing for a solid foundation and I wished I had mentors to direct me. I also see the wonderful nurturing, creative and compassionate powers us women have and enjoy supporting women in all ways that I am able. Being a woman, there are many vulnerabilities that have been abused by others in my life. That has created a deeper meaning and need to protect myself and other women from some of the evils that lurk in the world.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

I would say my grandma was my biggest influencer in my life. She was strong, yet nurturing, loving and caring with me. She was balanced in her life as she worked hard yet took good care of herself. I wish I had more time with her and was able to know her as an adult.

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

Balance is a key word throughout my life. I seek to achieve balance with the 4 main focuses in my life – Health, Family, Service and Security.

  • Health, to me, means physical and mental health which includes adding things that bring me joy, like travel.
  • Family includes my husband, sons, friends and community that supports and nurtures each other.
  • Service includes my work and volunteer activities, which all add my unique self to others. Finally,
  • Security means physical and financial well-being so I can have a good platform for which to apply my energy.

 

As I sit and write this introduction to new NABBW member Phyllis Coletta’s profile, I feel an instant kinship with her, though we’ve barely met. Why? Because she blogs as “Barefoot Broads,” and I can totally identify with the pleasure of that footloose feeling.

Back when I worked in Corporate America, I temporarily forgot the pure comfort of  bare feet. In fact, I went so far the other direction, I became a hopeless “shoe-aholic,”  and confess that I often bought my shoes six pair at a time. I loved completing every one of my outfits with the perfect pair of shoes. Pink, green, red, blue, taupe, brown, black. Suede, leather, patent. Stilettos, platforms, kitten heels and sandals. I wore them all. (And of course, like Carrie Bradshaw in HBO’s iconic series, Sex and the City, I swore my feet didn’t hurt!)

But since leaving that world back in the early 90’s, I have become a fan of living the “barefootin’ ” lifestyle (with apologies to musician Robert Parker, who released that song back in 1966.)  So when Phyllis told me she blogs at Barefoot Broads, I knew we had instant kinship! (Heck, I’m barefoot as I post this story…)

The other thing I find fascinating about Phyllis is that she is not afraid to upset the status quo. As you explains in her answers below, she began her professional career as a litigation attorney, but didn’t stop there. In fact, she has capably taken on more than a handful of other careers. 

Amazingly, Phyllis has also worked as an ordained Zen Buddhist hospital chaplain and a hospice volunteer, as well as serving as a teacher, and a professional freelance writer. She also worked as an EMT for ten years, both in the field and as an ER tech in Steamboat Springs, Colorado.

Perhaps because of her law background, Phyllis also gained experience as a Risk Manager for a community hospital, giving her a broad understanding of how our American healthcare system works. (Or perhaps doesn’t, she’d certainly know this better than I.)

But she hasn’t done all of her work in the US: In 2011 she participated with Centura Global Health Initiatives in a medical mission to Nepal.

Phyllis also serves as a Regional Consultant for The Schwartz Center for Compassionate Healthcare. While a chaplain, Phyllis worked in the medical ICU of a large teaching hospital, giving her a deep understanding of how miscommunication and lack of advance care planning can create much suffering at the end of life. It was this experience that compelled her to focus on helping families have important conversations early, well before anyone is admitted to an ICU.

Phyllis received her BA in Theology and English from Boston College and her JD from Rutgers University. An avid adventurer, Phyllis loves all things outdoors from running, mountain biking and cross-country skiing to swimming and rowing crew. Her three sons and families live in Steamboat, Seattle and Panama, giving her great excuses to visit beautiful places.

Welcome to the NABBW, Phyllis! And thanks for making time in your busy life to give your answers to our standard questions, which are posted below:

 

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

I have always been in love with life. From the time I was a scrawny kid climbing trees and wondering about God, I’ve been engaged in the whole dang show. A lover of change, I’m a restless nomad – changing careers and jobs from lawyer to teacher, writer, EMT, chaplain and cowgirl. I’m very connected to my Italian culture and heritage; big, loud love is my default and family is everything.

Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

Born of first generation immigrant parents, I was raised in a high volume, loving household in Philly along with five siblings. Thrice married (!), now wildly happy as a solo 62-year old, I raised three boys in a sweet beach town in south Jersey. I have five grandkids and I teach in an alternative high school in Seattle, where other people’s kids continue to drive me crazy.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

Roaming the neighborhood – free as a bird – with my three brothers, riding bikes (without helmets!) and looking for trouble; playing basketball in someone’s driveway and pedaling home hard when the light started to fade.

What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

I am tenacious and deeply committed to social equity.

What inspires you?

People who whistle and sing while they shop or work or play with their kids.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

The freedom to not give a rat’s ass what anyone thinks of me.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

Backpacking, mountain biking, skiing – anything that reminds me of the six-year-old me who just loved to play outside.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

Tattoos on the Heart by Father Gregory Boyle – the story of a priest who has worked for decades with the toughest gang members in East LA. You will weep, as I did/do every time I read it.

Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

I tend to wander, not “travel” so much. I’m not interested in tourism or destinations. Last summer I took a three-week solo wilderness road trip – camping and backpacking through Colorado, Idaho, Washington, Oregon. I backpacked in Glacier and rafted the Salmon River in Idaho. Kind of an outdoor gypsy.

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.

I’m very mindful of what I eat – clean and green mostly – and I run or walk/run an average of 3-4 miles almost every day. But most importantly I mediate 20 minutes in the morning, and 20 minutes at night. Best medicine ever.

What do you stress about?

Not much in my personal life, but I am profoundly disturbed by the massive income inequality in this country, where 78% of Americans (including my youngest son) live paycheck to paycheck no matter how hard they work.

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

Nope. When I got breast cancer in 2014 and had a bilateral mastectomy I didn’t bother with reconstruction. In fact, I ended up with a big beautiful chest tattoo of an eagle, landing on branches (with lotus flowers) that cover my scars.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

Lordy, every 10 years I change it up completely. When I was 48 I quit my lawyer job, sold my house and everything in it and moved to Colorado to be a cowgirl. That was so much fun.

Do you plan to retire?

Hell, yes. I envision a simple life of wandering around, hanging out with friends and family.

Are you doing anything to GO Green?

I have a pretty tiny carbon footprint and I’m vigilant about composting, recycling etc., but the biggest contribution I make to the planet is not consuming. I rarely buy anything (besides food).

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

After 15 years of being a litigation attorney, I remember thinking that I’d rather live out of my Honda than spend one more day fighting and arguing. That put me on a path – years later – of transforming my life from a Jersey lawyer mom to a Colorado cowgirl.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

One left: I want to work on a presidential campaign. My deepest dream now is to leave an economic legacy to my kids and grandkids so they will feel secure and be able to thrive. I volunteer every spare moment for Andrew Yang, a Democratic candidate and if they ask me to join full time I will drop everything and go.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?

I work in Seattle’s only Recovery High School – an alternative public high school for kids in recovery from drug/alcohol addiction. Besides my work, I try to live with integrity and compassion every moment. It’s a pretty fun way to be in the world, once you get the hang of it.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

My three boys have been my greatest teachers. You know how you would do anything for your kids? I have, over and over, changed my thinking, approach, philosophy and way of being in order to build better bonds with them. So worth it.

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

My mission is to inspire people to be their best selves, by being mine, and to use my skills and talents to lift up others.