Mara Purl Launches Virtual Book Tour

by Anne Holmes on August 1, 2011

Welcome to Mara Purl: NABBW member and author of the popular and critically acclaimed Milford-Haven novels, smalltown fiction written especially for women.

NABBW is honored to have this blog post featured as “Day Two” of Mara’s virtual book tour promoting her first Milford-Haven novel, What the Heart Knows, which takes place in the mid-1990s on California’s Central Coast and features a wonderful cast of characters headlined by artist Miranda Jones.

A painter, Miranda has always been told to “use her head” and now she’s beginning to ask herself whether she’s listening to her heart as well. Actually, all of the book’s characters are wrestling with this one way or another.

It seems Milford-Haven is a town full of characters, escapees from big city life who have each come to town with shadowed pasts and their own agenda. After all, the story is set pre-9-11, when the stock market was booming, and the upwardly mobile were pouring out of Los Angeles in search of a fresh start, a weekend getaway — and infinite possibilities.

Thus, it’s a town of dazzling opportunity, high stakes, buried secrets and a dangerous mystery. While outwardly seeming to be merely a lovely small town, full of quaint shops and breathtaking scenery.

The book, previously published in paperback, is about to be published in hardcover by Bellekeep Books. Bellekeep, an imprint with Midpoint Trade Books in New York, will premiere the hard-cover launch of the series beginning in September 2011. Thus the virtual book tour.

As a part of her tour, author Purl is offering everyone a free, downloadable copy of her Milford-Haven short story, “When Hummers Dream,” is a prequel to What the Heart Knows. Don’t miss the story before the story…the short story that happens right before Book One. You may download the book from the Amazon Kindle store, or read the PDF version of it here.

Mara has been delighting audiences  with stories of the happenings in her fictitious town of Milford-Haven since 1992. The community first appeared in Milford-Haven, U.S.A.©—the first American radio drama ever licensed and  broadcast by the BBC. The show reached an audience of 4.5 million listeners in the U.K. In the U.S., it was the 1994 Finalist for the New York Festivals World’s Best Radio Programs.

Early editions of Mara’s novels have won fifteen finalist and gold literary awards including the Benjamin Franklin, Indie Excellence, USA Book News Best Books, and ForeWord Books of the Year.

Mara’s other writing credits include plays, screenplays, scripts for Guiding Light, cover stories for Rolling Stone, staff writing with the Financial Times (of London), and the Associated Press. She is also the coauthor (with Erin Gray) of Act Right: A Manual for the On-Camera Actor.

Yes, Mara’s an actor as well, which may explain why her books are so visual. You may remember Mara as “Darla Cook” on the long-running soap opera, Days Of Our Lives. And, she earned a Peak Award for her one-woman show Mary Shelley: In Her Own Words, which she performs and co-wrote (with Sydney Swire).

Mara is married to Dr. Larry Norfleet and lives in Los Angeles, and in Colorado Springs. She was named one of twelve Women of the Year by the Los Angeles County Commission for Women.

Please enjoy this stop on Mara’s virtual book tour! Here’s a chance to learn what makes Mara the woman she is…

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

I have a passion for writing, and a view of life through the lens of story. I love peoples’ stories: how they meet, what they pursue, how things work out. I grew up in Tokyo, Japan and attended a school with 40 nationalities represented in the students.

After college at Bennington in Vermont, I lived in New York City as a professional journalist for several years; then moved to L.A. to resume my actress identity (I did a TV series as a child, and grew up in a theatre family).

L.A. has been home since the 80s.

Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

After many romantic adventures during my journalist and actress chapters, I married a fantastic guy who’d had a few solo years following a twenty-year marriage.

I became the evil-step-monster to his two older teens, gradually evolving into a trusted step-parent. These teens are now in their 30s with kids of their own, so I’m a step-grandmother known as “Mamaw” to four enchanting kidlets I absolutely adore.

Meanwhile, twenty years ago I became the God-daughter to my best friend’s daughter, so Sami is like a daughter to me; And sixteen years ago my sister’s son was born, so one of my favorite things in life is being Auntie Mara.

My parents are amazing and live near my husband and me.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

My dad took my mom, my sister and me on a trip around the world in the 1960s. Though I was a kid, I remember virtually every day of the trip, it made such an impression. I love the open-mind and open-heart my international upbringing gave me, though it later made me feel like an outsider in my own country.

By the time American trends made it to Tokyo, they were over in the States, so I sure never felt “cool.”

What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

Over-scheduled, high-achiever, still believe we can have it all and do it all. Actually I cherish the positive attitude and transformational skills my women friends and so many of my readers possess.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

Love . . . in every form. The deep love that sparkles in a long-term relationship; the love that becomes more and more reciprocal with my God-daughter, nephew, step-kids, and grand-kids; the love that suddenly springs up when I meet a reader and we realize we just “get” each other; the stunning and profound love that resonates in my long-term women-friendships; the inspiring love that descends when we’re able to help someone in need.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

My hobby is my work, my work is my hobby.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

Favorite movie is the classic “Rashomon” by Kurosawa. Why? Because it was one of the first films (and plays) to present so clearly that life consists of different points of view. The same experience as told by several different people turns out to be totally different stories. That intrigues me!

Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

My favorite travel partner is my husband, and our favorite journeys have been to Japan, where I got to share with him so many haunts from my childhood, as well as experience Tokyo and Kyoto as the extraordinary contemporary cities they are; and to Buenos Aires, where we danced tango day and night, one of our passions.

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.

Absolutely!! Preventive medicine to me is noticing a thought before it becomes a problem, be it physical, emotional, financial, or whatever. I believe we get wake-up calls along the way, some of which we hear, and some of which we ignore, until they get LOUD enough for us to pay attention to them.

What do you stress about?

Time . . . not enough time in the day, in the week, in the month, in the year.

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

I believe our youthful looks always came from the inside and really can be a permanent part of who we are, if we “claim” the qualities that create them. I never keep track of how “old” I am, but rather how truly I’m living my core mission.

I also find I’m getting more and more active, rather than less and less. When we moved into our new house, which is a three-story, my husband said, “When we get older we won’t like these stairs.” “Oh, yes we will!” I countered. “They’ll keep us young.” My parents still enjoy their stairs so maybe this is a family legacy.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

Several times. And this is always the case for an artist. We create all the time, and part of what we create is ourselves. Our vision of self evolves and as it does, we glimpse new possibilities and adjust our priorities.

Do you plan to retire?

I don’t believe in retirement.

Are you doing anything to Go Green?

My Green life began way back when. I was a crew member on a Greenpeace Voyage to save whales, and that changed my perspective on the planet, on water usage, on everything. I’ve been unable not to recycle since then. I created the first environmental soap opera. I wrote on eco issues for many publications. And . . . we can all do better.

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

Turning points often look like roadblocks when they first occur. And then as a road disappears, another one opens, or we blaze a new trail.

For example, the BBC had contracted me for another several seasons of “Milford-Haven USA” and since we had a runaway hit with 4.5 million listeners, I was very clear what I’d be doing for several years to come. Then suddenly, the BBC Radio 5 network got taken off the air. My show wasn’t canceled – the whole network was. My cast and crew had to find other work. All of us were shocked, and some of us were devastated. I had to reinvent myself completely.

Well, in the mean time, people had been contacting me about the possibility of writing books based on my series. Who knew that would become my life? I didn’t at the time, and it was a very daunting prospect. Yet I knew even then, this moment contained the seeds for something wonderful.

With the help of mentors, I kept “listening” and a whole new world did open up, bringing me to exactly the right path in life.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

Daily.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?

I served on the boards of community organizations for about fifteen years, using my celebrity to help raise awareness and funds. One issue to which I devoted a lot of time and energy is domestic violence, serving on the Advisory Board of Haven House, the oldest shelter in the U.S., and also on the Advisory Board of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

I was named Woman of the Year in 2002 for having written and/or delivered 50 speeches on the subject, as well as co-producing with Erin Gray and Women-In-Film one of the early PSAs which ran on TV nationally.

Another long-term project was writing and teaching my Student Theatre And Radio (S.T.A.R.) curriculum, which I taught for 20 years in high schools and colleges in California, Colorado, and Alaska, sometimes working with underprivileged students, sometimes gifted students.

I’ve learned so much from my twenty years of community service. Now, I put almost all my energy into creating a transformative experience for my readers, through my books, and also through the special events my team and I are beginning to create.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

Mary Baker Eddy, the only woman to found her own religion in the U.S. Her writings open thought to a realm of infinite possibilities, inspiring others to heal themselves and achieve the “impossible.”

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

What a great question, one I spend time considering again at least once a year. At this point I’d say my mission is to make a difference in the lives of my readers by inspiring them to consider . . . what does your heart know? What are those things in your heart-of-hearts you’ve always wanted to do? Are you doing them yet? If not now, when?

If you’d like to know more about Mara, visit her website at MaraPurl.com and subscribe to her blog.  Or send her an email at MaraPurl (at) MaraPurl.com.

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Baby Boomer Woman: Nancy Gotter Gates

by Anne Holmes on July 10, 2011

Welcome to NABBW member and prolific author, Nancy Gotter Gates. A public relations director for the Hudson Ohio school district as well as the Seal of Ohio Girl Scout Council in Columbus and the Columbus/Franklin County Library,  Nancy retired early in order to seriously pursue her hobby of writing, which she had enjoyed since childhood.

At first she concentrated on writing articles and poems, she says. Next she moved on to mastering the short story genre.  After publishing about 30 short stories Nancy turned to novel writing. She’s been writing novels for about fifteen years now, and has six to her credit.

The first four are mysteries featuring protagonists Tommi Poag & Emma Daniels, and the last two — Sand Castles and Life Studies — are women’s fiction. All of them, she says,  have a common theme, which is that older women are clever, hard working, intuitive, and caring.

Nancy attributes much of her authoring success to the “kind but insightful critiques” she’s received over the years from the wonderfully supportive writers’ group she’s been a part of for nearly twenty years.  “I don’t know what I’d do without them,” she says.

“And I also thank the professional groups that are so supportive: Murder We Write, the local chapter of Sisters in Crime and Carolina Romance Writers, the local chapter of Romance Writers of America.” You can learn more about Nancy’s books on her website.

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

A native of Columbus, Ohio I have lived most of my adult life in North Carolina (with the exception of a ten-year stint back in Ohio).

Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

I’m a widow, having lost my husband at age fifty-five.  My daughter lives nearby and my two sons live at some distance, but we all have a close relationship. I have no grandchildren and my parents are deceased.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

Some of my favorite memories are of my high school years. Unlike today, there was a lot less pressure on students to “be excellent in everything” in order to be selected for a favorite university. Although I was involved in many activities, I did it because it was fun and I enjoyed it, not because I was trying to enhance my application for school. It gave me the opportunity to explore my interests in writing, art, and music.

What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

I did not let my husband’s premature death cast a permanent pall over my life. It was difficult, of course, to go on, but I learned that having a goal pulled me out of my grief and set me on the road to a productive and happy life. The goal was to make a life as a writer.

What inspires you?

I’m inspired by other writers who have overcome adversity to pursue their craft. I have a ninety-five-year-old friend who was first published at age seventy-eight and now has sixteen books in print. And she is still actively writing. That is inspirational!

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

I find the most pleasure in friends and family who become more precious to me every day.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

My hobbies are painting and sewing. I love to work in watercolor, and my new book, Life Studies, reflects that interest. In fact the setting for my book, Sternberger Artists Center, is a real place in Greensboro NC where I had a studio for a number of years. Although I used the studio for writing, my protagonist, Liz Raynor, paints there. She, too, lost her husband who was in his fifties.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

I love so many books and movies it would be too difficult to single out any specific ones. I especially love to read mysteries and have written six of them myself. As far as movies go, I usually prefer the “little” art house movies to the blockbusters.

Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

I’ve always loved to travel which probably stems from the time my husband was based in Wiesbaden, Germany, with the Air Force and we had the opportunity to travel throughout Europe. I’ve also been to Australia, New Zealand, Patagonia, Costa Rica, Alaska, the Maritimes and travel each summer to Vancouver to visit my sister. Of course my husband was my favorite travel partner, but since I’ve been single I join tour groups.

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.

I try to eat healthily and exercise, although the latter is the hardest for me since I tend to favor sedentary activities. I do enjoy pool aerobics twice a week.

What do you stress about?

I really don’t stress about much at all. At this point I am pretty laid back and take each day as it comes. Life’s too short to get stressed over it.

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

I’ve never been one to worry unduly about my looks. I began to go gray very early and since people commented on the “highlights” I never tried to cover it up. I’m now completely gray and happy about it and I do get compliments. As far as any cosmetic procedures I have no interest in them at all.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

As far as reinventing myself, I think people are surprised that I am taking my writing so seriously. I believe they thought at first that it was a phase I was going through and I would go on to the next thing. But now that I am working on my tenth book, they seem quite amazed.

Do you plan to retire?

I retired early from my work in public relations when my husband had to take disability retirement at age forty-six. But I hope to continue writing till they find me slumped over my keyboard. It is what gives my life meaning.

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

I would have to say my husband’s illness and death at such an early age was the major turning point in my life. It took me some time to realize I could still lead a fulfilling life on my own.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

My dream is to become a better writer and by writing every day I hope to accomplish that.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?

I hope that my books make at least a small difference to my readers if only for the pleasure of reading or if I make some point that resonates with them.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

Many people have had great influence on my life but I credit my maternal grandmother with sparking my interest in writing. She shared her love of writing poetry with me from the time I learned how to hold a pencil, and I have always called her my muse.

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

My mission in life sounds unoriginal but I hope to make some slight difference in other peoples’ lives through my relationships and through my writing.

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Baby Boomer Woman: Lois Trader

by Anne Holmes on May 17, 2011

Welcome to NABBW member,  and champion survivor Lois Trader. Lois is a two-time survivor of life-threatening disease, and a woman who has lived through bankruptcy-not only financially but physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

As she puts it, “I know what it is to be bankrupt in every way. I have risen above these circumstances; my passion now is to give other women the courage to do the same.” Lois knows so much about survival she has written a book on it, titled, appropriately, Surviving.

The book, she says, acknowledges broken hearts. “There isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t have a part of her mending. It’s instinctive. But we must start with ourselves and work out from there to reach others. We must survive.”

Lois created a fascinating video trailer for her book, which features an original song by Michele Macias, and these days she spends her time speaking to audiences about survival, the importance of taking care of yourself and her non-profit organization, the Los Angeles Center for the Broken.

Below, she took time from her busy schedule to answer our favorite questions for us:

Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?

I will disclose up front that I am a guilt-ridden, recovering altruistic, need a ‘purpose-driven-life’, unrelenting on myself, superbly gifted denial queen.  I am very deliberative and I do not believe in the “Secret”.  I know that my attitude can affect others around me.  I believe myself  to be an entertaining kind of gal, enjoying making others laugh.  Sometimes I am the only one laughing, which in turn makes others laugh.  I spent too many years not laughing.  Those years are but a freckle compared to the joy my life holds now and forever.

Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.

  • Married 34 years!
  • 3 daughters, 3 son-in-laws, and 4 grandchildren.
  • My dad died at age 57.  (Long hard road after his first massive coronary at age 37)
  • My mom remarried after and my step dad and mom have been married 25 years.  They are both 82.

What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?

Eating when ever and not worrying about the calories or cholesterol in the food.

What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?

Passion about the prevention and control of women’s number one killer Heart Disease with the ability to relate because of many experiences that broke my heart before the diagnosis of coronary artery disease.

What inspires you?

First and foremost my family – girls and grandkids.  I am also very inspired by the hope that my life can make a big difference in other women’s lives.

What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?

The permission I’ve given myself to simply hang out.  I watch TV without guilt.  I rarely make my bed, knowing that with all probability, no one is going to see my bed unmade, and if so, they’d understand.  Being thrilled that my husband and I made decisions to stay together.  Without a doubt, being part of my grandchildren’s lives and seeing my girls each become a beautiful adult.

Do you have any interesting hobbies?

I love to write articles.  I love to play racquetball.  I also like Thai Kickboxing.  A new hobby I have is my pedometer.  New hobby is working on 10,000 steps daily, not easy.

Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.

Changes.

Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?

My husband and really do not travel much.  Our dream is to be able to have all three daughters and their family together in Hawaii (on us).

Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.

Yes, yes and yes.  I am 100% aware of what I eat.  I do not always choose the right food, but I know how important nutrition is for continued health.  I take supplements for my health.  I drink a fantastic shake every morning packed with everything I could need.  I exercise, because exercise is the one thing that helps every area of our body, mind and spirit.

What do you stress about?

I have a prescription for Xanax.  I’m thrilled that wine is good for the heart.  I exercise.  I make sure that I share my emotions.  I check myself before I allow something to upset me. Moreover, if something does upset me, I’ll do something nice for myself.  I believe retail therapy.  I believe in a delicious meal.

Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?

Yes, it is very important to me.  My message is about heart disease and that young women are just as likely to have it.  I was 46 years old when I had my heart attack.  I am now 55 years old.  I won’t go to any extreme measure because I am unique looking and if you do too much you wind up looking like everyone else.  But, I have a great skincare regimen.  I do my best to hide from the sun and I have never smoked.  When I was young, someone told me it causes wrinkles and that was enough for me to abstain.

Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?

Oh dear Lord, yes. I was addicted to volunteering.  It wiped out our finances more than once.  I was addicted to believing I had to earn my love.  I was not very good at standing up for myself.

That has all changed.  I have been re-invented – more than once.  I plan to re-invent again.

Do you plan to retire?

From a conventional day job yes.

Are you doing anything to GO Green?

We use brown paper grocery bags for trash bags, instead of plastic trash bags.  And we reuse them.  We reuse all of our plastic bags we must use.  I am conscious of going green we continually learn more how we can do more.

Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?

Two chronic illnesses – that will change a person.

Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?

Oh yes.  I just published my third book about women’s heart disease and my own personal story.  It’s called SURVIVING.  I dream (by working very hard) that this book will allow me many speaking engagements and I will be able to support my part of our family’s income with my speaking and writing.

How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?

I write, speak, share, talk, live heart health.

Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?

My husband.  He is a constant reminder of God’s grace to me.

If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.

My non-profit’s Mission Statement – Dedicated to all the women who are not able to be here because heart disease didn’t just interrupt their lives, as it did Lois Trader’s. Heart disease took their lives.

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