Welcome to NABBW member, country living and horse enthusiast Judith Geiger, who makes her living as a relationship coach, specializing in life and love after divorce.
Judith uses her own life as an example of why she advises her coaching clients that it is never too late to live the life of your dreams. Her first marriage ended in divorce and she has never forgotten the loneliness and the sheer chaos she experienced during that stressful time.
Happily married for seven years now, she and second husband David have, says Judith, “managed to make almost all of my dreams come true — and most of his as well.”
Judith’s childhood dreams revolved around horses and country living. So it’s no wonder she and David now live on a small horse farm in Central New York. But her story gets better: She started riding lessons at age 46 and purchased her first horse, Dee, two years later. A perfect example of living your dreams!
As you read more of her story below, you will come to understand why Judith spends her non-horse time coaching other Boomer women to live their dreams.
If you are divorced and would like to experience a similar “in love again” happy ending to your life story– an opportunity to be in love with yourself as well as with a partner — be sure to check out Judith’s website, BeInLoveAgain.com where you can:
- Listen to a welcome audio
- Take her free 10 question relationship readiness quiz
- Enjoy several free articles
- Find out about Judith’s services and events
Based on her personal experience and her coaching successes, Judith truly believes that women can thrive after divorce. No wonder her site features this quote from Marianne Williamson: “We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.”
There’s no need to postpone find out how you can improve your own post-divorce life: Judith offers a free 30-minute consultation to those considering her coaching services.
Using one paragraph, tell us a bit about yourself?
I am a horse enthusiast, proud grandmother and a catalyst for positive change. My birthday is in a couple of weeks and I am excited to turn 60! Each decade gets better and better and I cannot wait to see what this one will bring.
Tell us about your family; married, divorced, children, grands, boomerangs or parents living with you, etc.
Having been through a tough divorce but currently happily married I value every day my husband and I have together. He had no children of his own but claims my three even though they were grown when we married and he just adores our granddaughters.
We have a diverse family who love, laugh and cry together and our family ties are strong from the grandchildren to the great grandparents.
Currently we are dealing with my second husband’s aging parents (both my parents are gone) and his father has been very ill.
The biggest challenge with this is staying positive for his Father’s sake (we don’t want him to give up) and balancing all the extra demands.
What is your favorite childhood memory that is reminiscent of growing up in the 50s, 60s or 70s?
Being only five years old, on my first visit to my Godparents farm in Indiana, I was in “LOVE.” His name was Lucky and he had big brown patches on his snow white body.
Lucky was the most beautiful paint horse I had ever seen and our love lasted for years. It only demised a little when the Beatles came along. Remember those guys?
What qualities do you have that speak of our generation of women?
I am blessed with resilience to go the distance. We (Baby Boomer Women) have seen life in the raw! Early on it was homemade apple pie, later came the love beads and war, college became the norm for young women which was followed by the all-important balancing act…career, motherhood, aging parents, heartfelt causes, self-care, etc.
Yes, I would say resilience was a quality that grew out of necessity.
What inspires you?
I love to be inspired by beautiful sunsets, words of wisdom from my five-year-old granddaughter, and by the women who are growing their lives in ways that once were never possible.
Women who step up and be all they can be and then some.
What brings you the most pleasure in midlife?
My midlife pleasures are not much different than in my younger days, yet I am much more aware of how important the small things are.
Gratitude fills my days when I do such things as:
- Teaching our granddaughters about nature
- Riding horses on warm spring days
- Taking a day off to just explore life
- Walking in the woods with my husband and Gretchen (my dog)
- Leading women’s retreats that change lives
- My coaching business where I get to connect with awesome women
- Reading a good mystery novel while sipping on hot tea
- Warm fires, snowflakes and scented candles
You need to stop me, I could go on and on…I love it all!
Do you have any interesting hobbies?
I enjoy being in nature and horseback riding but my real passion is learning and taking great workshops.
I study such things as:
- Energy healing
- Relationships, and much more
Do you have a favorite book or movie? If so, tell us why it’s your favorite.
My three top picks:
- The number one book that started me, many years ago, on the journey to my authentic self was The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. GOOD STUFF!
- If you want a better love relationship then read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
- This is a very profound book. A must read! The Shack by William P. Young.
Some of my favorite authors are:
Do you travel and if so, who are your favorite travel partners and where do you like to go?
My husband has a bad back and no longer travels much but I love it.
I enjoy trips with my daughters (just us girls) we like to hike and camp together.
I also enjoy traveling alone. I find it is a great way to meet people because when you are alone you seem more approachable. People reach out and want to be your friend.
Do you practice preventive medicine? Please elaborate.
Yearly exams are a must but more than that I believe it is our duty to take the best care of our body that we can. For me this includes exercise (even on days I don’t want to), vitamins, healthy food and lots of fresh air.
Meditation is a great way to relieve stress and I am a big believer in it but, as yet, I have not made it a daily practice. I often journal and reflect.
Other preventive measures include:
- Herbal supplements (when needed)
- Yoga and (new to me) Qi-Gong
- A great resource for women during menopause is Dr. Christiane Northrup.
What do you stress about?
At the moment my father-in-laws health and what his decline is going to mean to the rest of the family. I have never been a big worrier about future events and I am very grateful for that. I mostly take things one day at a time.
Is it important for you to retain your youthful looks, and if so, to what degree are you willing to go?
To me retaining youthful looks and looking the best you can are very different. I love new clothes that flatter, a new hair-do, painted nails and high heels. I wouldn’t say I was doing it to look youthful but I do it to be the best me at the moment.
You don’t have to be young to be sexy!
Have you re-invented yourself, and if so, how?
Yes, yes, and yes! In 2005 I became very ill with serious allergies and asthma. I was prescribed over seven medications which I took several times a day. Every trip to the doctor earned me a new medication, yet I was not improving. I knew there had to be a better way so I searched the internet for holistic remedies. I did use some of them but what I also found was life coaching.
I had never heard of it before but instantly knew it was what I was meant to do. Within a month I was enrolled in Coach U’s Advanced Coaching program. As a business owner I was only able to take classes at night and on the week-ends as my new self-emerged. My life was never the same.
I had my own personal life coach for over three years. We did some amazing work together! My personal foundation grew strong and I was truly happy in my new career. Today because of all I have learned and how happy I have grown my health has improved about 90%. I now take one medication once a day!
Do you plan to retire?
Are you doing anything to GO Green?
Loving nature, as I do, I was going green long before it ever became popular. I remember recycling 20 plus years ago when people thought it was a big waste of time. Now it is all the buzz! I only wish we could do more.
Can you pinpoint major turning points in your life that led to your life’s work/play at midlife?
Read more in the question above about re-inventing yourself, but when you have a health crisis it commands that you change your life in some way. For me it was my work which is also part of my play!
Do you still have unfulfilled dreams, and are you doing anything to accomplish them?
Absolutely! My dreams grow with me. As each one is accomplished I realize there is more of life to explore. I would now love to write a book that is published. An on-going dream of mine is to eradicate violence against women in all countries. That is one of the reasons that I am a member of Zonta International.
How do you make a difference in the lives of others, your community, your world?
I try to remain open to the moment, so I can to assist with whatever shows up on a daily basis. If we pay attention many opportunities will arise to help others, even if it is as simple as smiling at a stranger. One of my ways to give back to the community is to mentor others at my local Toastmasters club. I really feel fulfilled watching people blossom.
Who has had the biggest influence on your life and why?
Early in life it was my mother, because she had a very tough life, yet she was very resilient. She taught me that no matter how hard life is you can always make it better one step at a time.
Later, I would say it was my own children. I saw them grow with each new challenge and become adults who really know how to make a difference in the world, whether it is my son raising his children with great kindness, my daughters working in the school system caring for your children or all three caring for the family members who are aging. Their presence really matters and by example they can change the world one step at a time.
As Mahatma Ghandi says, “you must be the change you wish to see in the world.” I adore this philosophy.
If you were to have a personal mission statement, what would it be? Feel free to be as serious or fun as you choose.
To be a catalyst for loving relationships that last and empower women to be happy and fulfilled.
To read my vision statement go to http://www.beinloveagain.com/Mission.html